Proper Etiquette for Casual Dining

Where fine dining rules don’t apply, but the etiquette is still not-so-casual.

Remember those endless childhood reminders from our parents – “Don’t talk with your mouth full!” and “Elbows off the table!”. Back then, they felt like the ultimate buzzkill at mealtime. But guess what? Turns out, our parents were secretly shaping us into becoming etiquette pros! And now, without even realising it, those little lessons have stayed with us.

Dining etiquette is often associated with fine dining – like formal office dinners, family reunions, or elegant date nights. But when it comes to casual scenarios, like brunch with friends, we tend to loosen up and overlook the rules (and rightfully so – it’s a more relaxed vibe, right? At least that’s what we think).

However, some basic dining etiquette applies no matter the setting. After all, dining out isn’t just about savouring great food, it’s about sharing a great experience with friends, family, or colleagues. Whether it’s a laid-back brunch, a business lunch, or an intimate dinner, a few simple etiquette rules can elevate the experience for everyone at the table.

Here’s your easy guide to making a great impression while dining out:

Before the Meal:

  1. Be Punctual – Arriving on time shows respect for your host, fellow diners, and the restaurant staff, especially if you have a reservation. If everyone’s arrived except one person, the food’s getting colder, the conversation feels incomplete, and the server keeps checking in. Who’d want that?
  2. Respect the Seating Arrangement – Imagine you grabbed a seat at a family gathering, only to realise it was meant for the host. Awkward, right? A quick check before sitting saves the shuffle, and shows consideration for everyone at the table.
  3. Greet Your Companions – A warm “hello” and a smile set a pleasant tone for the meal. Acknowledge everyone at the table before getting comfortable diving straight into the menu.

During the Meal:

  1. Mind Your Manners – These are the classics: Keep your elbows off the table, chew with your mouth closed, and avoid talking while chewing.
  2. Napkin Etiquette – Yes, the way you use and place your napkin matters. Place your napkin on your lap as soon as you sit down. Use it to dab your mouth gently, not as a tissue.
  3. Put Your Phone Away – You wouldn’t want your fellow diners to feel overlooked and ignored, right? Being present in the moment is key. Unless it’s an emergency, keep the texting, the scrolling, and the calling for later.
  4. Order Thoughtfully – If someone else is picking up the tab, avoid ordering the priciest item unless they suggest it. A quick meal or dinner should not pinch a hole in someone’s pocket.
  5. Wait for Everyone to Be Served – It’s considerate to begin eating only once all the food has been served to your companions. Diving straight into your meal can come across as impatient and inconsiderate.
  6. Share with Courtesy – If sharing dishes, always use the serving utensils provided instead of your own. Nobody would want to reach for a bite of pasta only to realise someone else’s used fork has already been in it!
  7. Don’t Reach Across the Table – Politely ask for items to be passed instead of stretching over others. Having an arm hovering over someone’s plate can be quite distracting.

After the Meal:

  1. Don’t Overstay Your Welcome – If you’re catching up with friends over dinner at a café, it’s tempting to sit and chat long after the plates are cleared. But if the place is packed and people are waiting for tables, it’s considerate to wrap up and take the conversation elsewhere.
  2. Handle the Check with Grace – Again, if you’re out with friends for a casual dinner or brunch, avoid the awkward “who’s paying what” scramble at the end. A quick chat before ordering or using a bill-splitting app can keep things smooth and drama-free.
  3. Tip Appropriately – Don’t be nit-picky when it comes to tipping. Be generous and tip a gracious amount.
  4. Thank the Staff – A quick “thank you” to your server while they are clearing the table might seem small, but it can brighten their busy shift and leave a positive impression.
  5. Leave Your Space Tidy – Leaving crumpled napkins, spilled sauce, and scattered utensils all over the table isn’t a great look. A quick tidy-up before leaving shows appreciation for the staff and keeps things respectful.

Well, I am sure these aren’t some groundbreaking rules you haven’t heard before, but in a relaxed, casual dining setting, it’s easy to let them slip. Good etiquette isn’t about being formal – it’s about making dining a pleasant experience for everyone at the table. So, next time you’re out for a meal, keep these little gestures in mind. Your fellow diners will appreciate it more than you think!

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